Narccistic Wounding

Early connections shape us.

Our attachment to our primary care givers during childhood creates the basis for our future relationships. When these initial connections are insecure and involve a lack of safety, stability, or consistency, it affects our relationships and quality of life.

Growing up with narcisstic and/or emotionally unavailable caregivers creates profound wounding in relationships with others. However, most importantly, it significantly affects your connection with yourself.

Just like childhood abuse experiences, unmet emotional needs have significant short- and long-term effects on the individual’s level of functioning.

When you are raised in a household where your parents or caregivers are busy dealing with their own wounding and not able to attend to your needs, you are forced to take care of yourself and grow up quickly.

Oftentimes, you also feel a responsibility to care for your own caregivers’ wellbeing instead of focusing on your own experience of being a child.

This kind of wounding is very pervasive.

It can come from one parent or both. However, this experience of rejection is very damaging. It often leads to feeling misunderstood, over-explaining, self-sabotaging, and struggling with intimacy, among other issues.

Mother wounding is closely tied to deficits in your ability to care for yourself and engage in self-love. You often invest all your time and resources in others and forget about your own needs. Father wounding is associated with low self-worth, impulsivity, fear of intimacy, co-dependency, overworking, and taking on too many responsibilities.

Individuals who experience wounding from both of their parents have greater challenges with their sense of self and rely heavily on others for validation. Further, they often find themselves in relationships with people similar to those who raised them because it feels familiar.

When you are carrying the mother and/or father wounding for a long time, you often find yourself in survival mode. This is due to many years of overextending yourself to others.

Eventually, you become depleted and unable to prioritize yourself and your needs. Additionally, when you rely heavily on other people’s thoughts and opinions, you are unable to hear yourself. This leads to doubt, confusion, and insecurity.

Don’t suffer alone – I can help.

You are probably wondering if this vicious cycle could be interrupted and if healing is possible. The answer is yes!

It takes a lot of time and dedication to work on the above challenges, but it is absolutely possible.

We can’t erase our past; we can, however, make changes in the present that will lead to more stability, security, and peace of mind in the future.

You don’t have to carry the weight of this wounding alone. I would be honored to support you on your journey. Let’s connect!